Recently I recieved a text message from a friend
She wrote that she had been for her 5 week scan but the baby wasn’t there anymore.
I just replied OK.
Because I wasn’t sure how to respond to something which I hadn’t or won’t have ever been through. But I am not here to discuss her pain/angusish.
This story happened yesterday night.
I simply wrote
“Hey how are you?”
via a messenger app.
She replied I flipped (got angry at *Oliver)
I went onto say that maybe she had gotten angry at said boyfriend because of what was happening emotionally for her?
She then simply said please check on how *Oliver is for me.
- My actual response
But for some reason I did.
WHY?
Why did I agree to this?
I made a list
Clearly her and *Oliver aren’t commuicating wonderfully right now
He clearly can’t or hasn’t mentioned this to his brother or any other members of his family
Maybe she thought a stranger would be able to open him up emotionally?
How would *Oliver respond to me messaging him? Would it anger him?
What could I possibly offer to the conversation which they clearly aren’t having?
I simply don’t know.
All I can say is that it made my friend happy.
Although I still don’t get my involvement in it? I just don’t like being dragged into issues like this.
It’s overwhelming to be pulled into someone else’s pain and suffering.
I guess the question that remains is this – do I remain friends with this person and risk losing her by telling her how I feel or do I just accept that for the time being she’s going to be reliant on me more emotionally, mentally, physically?
Autistic Nick 